My Secret to Happiness

As I'm navigating the world of recovery and healing, I'm coming to believe something that I had previously thought unattainable. It truly is my secret to happiness. I'd love to say that it's THE secret to happiness, but there are many happy people out there and many opinions as to why they have attained said happiness.

I do know, however, that there are MANY unhappy people out there that can be helped by embracing the following:

I can CHOOSE my thoughts. I really can.

In the past I would have said, "OK sure. I'll just CHOOSE to be happy. Or how about I CHOOSE not to be depressed? If it was that easy my life would be so much better." Please hear me. I am not saying it is easy. In fact, it's extremely difficult and takes considerable work and discipline. I'd like to share with you a quote from my beyond amazing life coach, Amy Logan.

So many of us believe that we would be happier if someone in our life would change. This causes us so much suffering. When we do this we hand over the power of how we feel based on how someone else is behaving.

Other people's behavior has no impact on us emotionally until we think about it, interpret it, and choose to make it mean something.

No matter what people do, how they act, or what they say, we do not have to give the power over to them to determine how we feel.

This concept, alone, can change your life forever.

I still maintain that trauma triggers and responses can get us 0-60mph in our feelings and emotions. Out of nowhere my body can have a physiological reaction that hits me like a hurricane.

But.

When I stop, think about what I'm thinking, and ask myself what I am making this mean about me, it's absolutely life changing.

The game has changed.

We are truly moving from surviving to thriving. Reptile brain to pre-frontal cortex. Neuropathways are being rerouted. If you'd like to walk with me, let me know. I'd love to share.

Thanks for being who you are. I appreciate you.